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Sunday, July 26, 2009

SeXuAL HaRaSsMeNt

okay, kwn2 this info is very important as we are now in education industry so beware of this thing..maybe there are some of our students facing this problems, thus we have to help them to avoid more bad things from happening...

Sexual harassment
is intimidation, bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favors.[1] In some contexts or circumstances, sexual harassment may be illegal. It includes a range of behavior from seemingly mild transgressions and annoyances to actual sexual abuse or sexual assault.[2] Sexual harassment is a form of illegal employment discrimination in many countries, and is a form of abuse (sexual and psychological) and bullying. For many businesses, preventing sexual harassment, and defending employees from sexual harassment charges, have become key goals of legal decision-making. In contrast, many scholars complain that sexual harassment in education remains a "forgotten secret," with educators and administrators refusing to admit the problem exists in their schools, or accept their legal and ethical responsibilities to deal with it (Dziech, 1990).

Types of harassment

There is usually more than one type of harassing behavior present, so a single harasser will often fit more than one category. These are brief summations of each type.

  • Power-player - Legally termed "quid pro quo" harassment, these harassers insist on sexual favors in exchange for benefits they can dispense because of their positions in hierarchies: getting or keeping a job, favorable grades, recommendations, credentials, projects, promotion, orders, and other types of opportunities.
  • Mother/Father Figure(a.k.a. The Counselor-Helper) - These harassers will try to create mentor-like relationships with their targets, all the while masking their sexual intentions with pretenses towards personal, professional, or academic attention.
  • One-of-the-Gang - harassment occurs when groups of men or women embarrass others with lewd comments, physical evaluations, or other unwanted sexual attention. Harassers may act individually in order to belong or impress the others, or groups may gang up on a particular target.
  • Third Party sexual harassment - describes sexual harassment of employees or peers who are not themselves the target of the harassment; this includes groping. Third-party sexual harassment may be either quid pro quo or hostile environment.
  • Serial Harasser - Harassers of this type carefully build up an image so that people would find it hard to believe they would do anyone any harm. They plan their approaches carefully, and strike in private so that it is their word against that of their victims.
  • Groper - Whenever the opportunity presents itself, these harassers' eyes and hands begin to wander, engaging in unwanted physical contact that may start innocuous but lead to worse.
  • Opportunist - Opportunist use physical settings and circumstances, or infrequently occurring opportunities, to mask premeditated or intentional sexual behavior towards targets. This will often involve changing the environment in order to minimize inhibitory effects of the workplace or school or taking advantage of physical tasks to 'accidentally' grope a target.
  • Bully - In this case, sexual harassment is used to punish the victim for some transgression, such as rejection of the harasser's interest or advances, or making the harasser feel insecure about himself or herself or his or her abilities. The bully uses sexual harassment to put the victim in his or her "proper place."
  • Confidante - Harassers of this type approach subordinates, or students, as equals or friends, sharing about their own life experiences and difficulties, sharing stories to win admiration and sympathy, and inviting subordinates to share theirs so as to make them feel valued and trusted. Soon these relationships move into an intimate domain.
  • Situational Harasser - Harassing behavior begins when the perpetrator endures a traumatic event (psychological), or begins to experience very stressful life situations, such as psychological or medical problems, marital problems, or divorce. The harassment will usually stop if the situation changes or the pressures are removed.
  • Pest - This is the stereotypical "won't take 'no' for an answer" harasser who persists in hounding a target for attention and dates even after persistent rejections. This behavior is usually misguided, with no malicious intent.
  • Great Gallant - This mostly verbal harassment involves excessive compliments and personal comments that focus on appearance and gender, and are out of place or embarrassing to the recipient. Such comments are sometimes accompanied by leering looks.
  • Intellectual Seducer - Most often found in educational settings, these harassers will try to use their knowledge and skills as an avenue to gain access to students, or information about students, for sexual purposes. They may require students participate in exercises or "studies" that reveal information about their sexual experiences, preferences, and habits.
  • Incompetent - These are socially inept individuals who desire the attentions of their targets, who do not reciprocate these feelings. They may display a sense of entitlement, believing their targets should feel flattered by their attentions. When rejected, this type of harasser may use bullying methods as a form of revenge.
  • Stalking - There is often a sexual component to stalking, which becomes especially evident if the stalker observes the stalked at all times, including uses of the restroom.
  • Unintentional - Acts or comments of a sexual nature, not intended to harass, can constitute sexual harassment if another person feels uncomfortable with such subjects.

Saturday, July 25, 2009

.:salam semua:.

hui..setelah lame aku berusaha nk masuk blog, akhirnye dapat gak, nape ntah dh bape ari aku nk masuk xleh...google nk account google gak, kalu yahoo dia refused...nasib baik dah boleh...windunye kat blog aku yang aku sayang ni...apepon selamat bertemu kembali semua!!!!

Sunday, July 12, 2009

R.I.P MJ...King Of Pop

Salam sume...lame gile aku x update...sorry..been busy for the time being..pening..tapi apepon..brite yang paling buat aku sedih..adalah berita kematian Michael jackson...aku memang minat gile kat dia...x kisahlah ape dah yang media cakap pasal dia..segala kontroversi dan segala cite buruk tentang dia...aku tetap minat kat dia...aku paling suke lagu dia Man in the mirror dan heal the world tu...apepun R.I.P MJ..we all love u...kalu betullah dia dah jadi Muslim sebelum kematian dia..aku syukur...dapat gak hidayah dari Allah swt...kat bawah ni aku dapat dari www.budiey.com..share it together...

Sekitar Konsert Memperingati Michael Jackson...

UPACARA memperingati Michael Jackson atau “The Memorial” yang disiarkan dari Staples Center, Los Angeles pagi tadi bagaikan sebuah konsert hebat. Sebagaimana impak idola kesayangan ini semasa hayatnya, begitulah jua yang terjadi setelah dia meninggalkan kita.

Bukan ribuan yang meratapi pemergiannya, malah jutaan peminat di merata dunia bagaikan terpaku melihat upacara pengebumian yang disiarkan secara langsung dari 8TV, MTV dan CNN untuk tatapan kita. Ada mata yang tergenang, ada hati yang tersentuh dan ada yang tidak tenteram kerana jasad Michael Jackson belum lagi bersemadi.

Lupakan sebentar, andaian atau keraguan samada Michael Jackson seorang Islam? Dia hebat kerana hasil kerjanya senantiasa hebat dan bukan disebabkan dia ’sudah memeluk Islam’, dia dianggap hebat. Meskipun, waktu siaran ‘Memorial Micahel Jackson’ disiarkan jam 1 pagi dan tentu sekali tidak sesuai untuk orang yang bekerja. Namun demi lakaran sebuah sejarah seorang bintang pujaan berjuta, ramai yang sanggup bersengkang mata menanti mayatnya diletakkan di Staples Centre untuk tatapan peminat-peminatnya.

Selama 50 tahun hayatnya di muka bumi ini, (1958-2009) Michael Jackson tidak habis-habis mengundang kontroversi. Hinggalah ke saat-saat akhir kematiannya, masih juga tak berhenti. Banyak persoalan yang masih belum terungkai - penyebab kematiannya, nasab keturunan tiga orang anak-anaknya, angka hutang sebenarnya, kesalahan kes cabul kanak-kanak dan banyak lagi.

Masih yang tertanya-tanya, dadah apa yang meracuninya sekali gus meragut nyawa Michael masih tidak ada jawapan. Mayatnya terpaksa ‘disimpan’ hingga dua minggu bagi urusan autopsi dan terbaru, Michael akan disemadikan tanpa otak - satu lagi kontroversi tidak terduga.

Apa pun, ikon muzik pop dunia ini telah mencipta sejarah dengan setiap tindak tanduknya - baik ketika hidup mahupun ketika mati. Upacara penghormatan penyanyi diadakan di Staples Center, sebuah kolosium gah yang pernah digunakan sebagai gelanggang untuk Sukan Olimpik 1984. Ianya bagaikan satu konsert besar dengan kehadiran ramai bintang-bintang ternama seperti Mariah Carey, Usher, Lionel Ritchie, Stevie Wonders, Brooke Shields dan ramai lagi.

Bagi kawan selebriti yang tidak mampu menahan rasa sedih seperti Quincy Jones dan Elizabeth Taylor, awal-awal lagi sudah menarik diri. Seramai 11,000 peminat Jackson yang berjaya mendapatkan tiket daripada 1.6 juta datang dengan penuh takzim, menyertai upacara yang dihadiri ribuan orang itu. Di luar, beribu peminatnya bagai diserang histeria, tidak mampu membendung perasaan sedih.

Hingga kini, tempat di mana Michael akan disemadikan masih menjadi tanda tanya sejak beberapa hari lalu. Walaupun telah menetapkan tempat mayat Jacko disemadikan, keluarga Jackson masih berteka teki. Mula-mula, heboh dikatakan tempat perkuburan Jackson akan dilakukan di ladang mewahnya di Neverland Ranch tetapi ditolak kerana masalah undang-undang. Kemudian, ianya berubah ke tanah perkuburan Forest Lawn Memorial-Parks & Mortuaries di Hollywood. Fakta sebenar masih tidak sahih.

Jika kita pernah membuat andaian, kematian Raja Rock N’ Roll, Elvis Presley pada tahun 1977 ketika berusia 42 tahun tidak ada pengganti, kini tidak lagi. Hanya Michael Jackson saja mampu mencetuskan kegilaan yang setara dengan Elvis dan mungkin lebih lagi. Bekas penyanyi Jackson 5 ini cukup hebat impaknya. Dia berjaya menyatukan pelbagai bangsa dengan lagunya. Dengan penampilan dan personaliti unik dan tersendiri, Michael cukup disanjungi dan sayangi.

Kehebatan Jackson bukan sahaja pada suaranya atau gerak tarinya yang seakan tidak bersendi itu. Mungkin cerita kontroversi banyak membantunya menjadi perhatian media. Jackson adalah artis yang cukup dedikasi, komited dan mempunyai azam yang cukup tinggi. Setiap apa yang dikerjakan mampu memberi kepuasan kepada peminatnya.

Banyak elemen-elemen baru seperti ‘Moonwalk’, video Thriller, Bad, Black or White meninggalkan kesan yang bukan sedikit kepada peminatnya. Dan tiada yang lebih mengujakan Michael selain beraksi untuk konsert ‘This Is It’ 50 siri yang dijadual berlangsung di London mulai 13 Julai ini. Dia nekad memberi persembahan terbaik untuk peminatnya setelah sekian lama. Namun, niatnya tidak kesampaian. Michael rebah kerana masalah jantung yang dihadapinya di saat-saat akhir dia menghadapi tekanan untuk membuat konsert di London.

Kenapa dan mengapa peminat Michael Jackson terus histeria, baik semasa menonton persembahan, mahupun setelah ketiadaannya? Kerja keras, kesungguhan, dedikasi dan keikhlasannya melahirkan satu-satu idea persembahan akan membuat kita sebak jika kita melihat video persembahannya.

Hidupnya di pentas dan matinya juga begitu juga membuat kita sungguh terasa. Michael akan terus dikenang dan muziknya akan hidup di hati peminatnya yang terdiri dari semua golongan kerana tidak mungkin lagi ADA bintang sehebatnya selepas ini!